This week, I would like to talk about a deep, spring-cleaning, but not in the usual sense of one’s home … a different home … my soul!
Imagine a house in which someone has lived for his or her entire life. People keep piles of things that add up year after year. Storage containers fill with old paper, broken toys, and outgrown clothes. So many of us shove things into boxes, but can’t remember what’s inside.
Have you heard of Marie Kondo, the organizing consultant followed by millions around the world? She asks questions like, do we really need clothes we never wear, shoes that hurt our toes, and books we never read?
Knowing Me, Knowing You
The same thing goes with values, emotions, and priorities. They aren’t worth keeping unless we use them well. If they make us feel better, stronger and happier, then they are worth saving. Otherwise, no.
Reviewing my priorities, selecting the memories to keep, and the ones to trash, has been a frequent learning process, almost like a rebirth.
Many years in my life have been haunted with nonsense fears, unsettled expectations, and irrelevant past mistakes. Well, none of these do me any good.
Isn’t it interesting how we get attached to things that are not healthy? For example, my professional goals and priorities, which made a lot of sense before, are overrated now. I am a different person who has been learning to appreciate new things in life. Why not leave the old ambitions in the past?
My New Wardrobe
In the past couple of years, there has been a trend to move to a “capsule wardrobe.” Smaller spaces force people to live simpler, and to go back to basics. So, if it is healthy to be smarter regarding what to buy and what to keep, why not do the same with our emotions?
One of the most difficult exercises I have done was to refocus my attention to my beloved ones, and my health.
Letting go of “the nice girl” who seeks to please everyone has been a great stretch to my psyche, besides testing my self-esteem. I repeatedly think to myself, “What if they don’t like me anymore, because I said no?”
Never underestimate real friendships. We need to sow love and care to be able to harvest trust and affection … and if some people don’t understand, you may want to look for new friends.
La Vie En Rose
I started thinking about the following items when simplifying my “soul closet”:
- What are my worries and fears? Do I have control over them? If not, why keep them?
- Who are the people around me? Do they make me feel happy and care about me? If not, why hang out with them?
- How do I use my free time? Does it make me healthier, wiser or happier? If not, why don’t I change it?
My suggestion this week (and a constant reminder for myself), is to be smart with the gift of time. In my opinion, a good day has to be labeled a great day! Happy memories are vitamins for your being, and should be taken daily!
Don’t wait until you don’t have enough space inside your life to start reorganizing. Be good to yourself, and go for your own self-spring-cleaning.
Hope was diagnosed with lupus in 2013. Since then, she decided to learn more about her condition, and explore ways to feel better. Before recently changing her life aspirations to focus on the lupus cause, she worked for several years in the technology industry, holding different engineering, marketing and leadership positions. She is Brazilian, and lived in the Silicon Valley and in the UK. Now, the lovely state of Oregon is her home.